Wow. It’s been so long, that I actually had to stop and stare at my own blog front page and struggle to remember how to log in to write a post. For shame. There have been a lot of reasons that I haven’t been writing, but they are pretty bad. Things like – I don’t want to write about my awesome trip to Germany because I need to photos to post along with that and I’m comically behind on photos. A large part of that problem is derby photography – it’s easy and fun to take several thousand photos, but it’s not easy and NOT FUN to process that many. And then I guilt myself into dealing with them by saying that I can’t process fun things, like travel, till I finish my derby. And look where we are! No photos at all.
Another thing that’s been going on is I tend to mute myself to avoid unpleasant confrontations. This hasn’t been working out well, since I end up feeling frustrated anyhow and things have a way of coming to a head no matter what I do or don’t do. And I really miss having a record of my life, and a place to talk through things with myself. And maybe if I treat it as a one-sided soliloquy that will be easier than an actual conversation. I was scrolling back through my own archives to earlier in 2010 and the start of that year was very rough. But the upside was that Geoff and I started talking a lot more about a lot of things, and overall it was good. And I see now I’m doing the same thing, so I guess this should be a lesson to myself to not shy away from the hard things, and also look at the patterns of my own life rather than being blind to them.
So .. July 2010. What’s happened since then. Facebook has this thing now, called Timeline, maybe you’ve heard of it? Since I’ve been so terrible at life, maybe that can help me fill in some blanks. In the summer of 2010, my friend Cinder was living here, and that was basically awesome. Did a lot of cooking, had lots of fun. Geoff was in and out on visits and maybe we lost a little bit of private time but it was totally offset by lots of fun! I finished building coop V2.0 which was a huge improvement over V1 which was an unstable stack made of rotting lumber and found items. The chickens didn’t care much but it was literally falling apart. V2.0 featured such improvements as: actual new lumber, framed construction, and a peaked metal roof!
I also flew across the country to spend a day or 2 in PA with Andrew and Austin prior to departing for Europe. This included highlights as: visiting an awesome old abandoned penitentiary and drinking a lot, and also passport madness – I was really confused about the passport rules for travel to EU as concerns the expiration date. Apparently just having a valid passport isn’t enough, it also needs to not be expiring in the next 3 months. But maybe it doesn’t matter for Germany? but maybe it does? I’m not bad at the internet I just couldn’t find a straight answer to this very basic question and then as the trip got closer I got nervous about sending my passport off in the mail. And so it ended up that the day of the trip I was standing in a long line at the agency in Philly where it was confirmed that it was Not Good and I got a rush job with a few hours turnaround on a brand new passport. So, props to the passport agency people! It was stressful but we made the flight and all was well. Germany was awesome and deserves a post of its own! Which I will do. Promise.
Later in the summer I had a fridge death (bad smells) got a new fridge (it’s awesome!) reserved Cataclysm, continued to poke at my very frustrating thesis / deal with school people / try and get a new advisor, and visited Ojo Caliente with my best friend’s parents where a few ideas got planted in mah head, and read the Hunger Games books in approximately 1 day.
That fall, Geoff and I visited the Trinity Site which is only open to the public for 2 days of the year, had more beers at Socorro Springs brewery, went to the Bosque del Apache bird refuge and attended my first (not his first) Blizzcon together! It was nerdy and very fun, highlights including Cinder smuggling approximately a sixpack of beers into the convention center in her pants (what?) and extremely dorky photos on the frozen throne with a sort of smelly foam lich king helm. And then the woooorrrrrst, most hungover flight back home EVER. At one point we were literally wandering around the tarmac, squinting bleerily trying to figure out how to get back inside the terminal and how does that even happen?
Thanksgiving that year, Geoff and I traveled to mom’s house in Ohio for deliciousness and hung out with my brother, new sister angie, and earl & cindy. It was a lot of fun, we made handdipped beeswax candles in the garage with dan, sipped on tequila like responsible adults and posed for family photos. All while proselytizing about vibram fivefingers which by this point has become kind of a thing. December was nice, as Geoff was released from the semester of school, so we relaxed and played wow and opened presents. That segued into the season of unseasonably cold weather where NM dropped below 0 F for multiple days, combined with gas shortages. While my house retained gas delivery, my 1981 furnace was unable to stand up to the barrage of unending cold and some pipes froze and broke in the crawlspace, and indoors I watched the thermometer struggle to keep the overall temp in the 50′s. When it dipped below to 49 is when I started to get concerned but it’s really not pleasant when it’s that chilly inside! Aspen and I spent a lot of time in a small room with a space heater. NM declared state of emergency and the lab closed. I spent a lot of time in the miserable crawl space. At one point I was showering at work for several days because even once water was restored, it was unable to get upstairs to the shower and no one likes sink-bathing in the kitchen. no one. Geoff left just in time to miss this particular disaster, a trend that was to repeat..
In March I undertook a project to re-do the bathroom counter and sink upstairs, a project made very exciting by “non-standard construction” aka you can’t buy that size counter and also these walls aren’t square. In the end, once the counter and sink were ripped out, it became clear that there was no way to buy a counter that would just work and my only option was to build a counter, so I got a lot of plywood and cement board and cut it to fit the not-square spaces and then tiled it. Tiling was a bitch, but it looks pretty nice and the new sink and hardware is suuuuuuch an improvement. In April Geoff and I took delivery of a shoe-box sized parcel from the post office, on a sunday no less, full of 27 peeping peeps. I had raised 3 young silkies the year before, but clearly this was a whole new level of chickens. My dad and brother came out for a visit which was awesome and fun. During this visit Geoff sort of hinted at things to come. And a belated christmas present came to fruition – Geoff and I converted my old 20D camera to be full-time IR only, which was something he had dabbled around with, but only through very long exposure filtered shots. He was very pleased and remained hooked on all things IR!
In May, Geoff proposed, on the 10th. We went out for margaritas and quietly reveled for a little bit before calling everyone
Domestic life continued with the peeps getting ever bigger and more dusty as we were brooding them in a pen in the living room. NEVER AGAIN. By this point we were in a pretty solid routine of travel where Geoff would spend 2 weeks in los alamos, and then 2 weeks in florida. It was predictable and enough to get by, but we were both definitely looking forward to him finishing his phd and moving out here, and to that end he was really ramping up his contact with lanl people to find the right person to get an in. Also in May, I traveled to WPI to present / re-defend / meet my new advisor. I stayed with a friend in Boston, who was awesome enough to loan me his car for the drive to Worcester. The flight out was terrible, I spent several hours in TX, and didn’t arrive to my friend’s apartment till almost 5am, and I was presenting an hour away around 11am I think. So it was a terrible bad morning and I was exhausted and loopy and delirious BUT it went well, and my thesis cover sheet was officially signed. We had a delicious celebratory dinner and I headed back to NM.
I started dipping my toes into wedding planning towards the end of the month. We decided that sooner rather than later was the way to go, and I decided that water and trees should be involved, preferably turning golden yellow. So: fall it was! From engagement to wedding we had 5 months to plan which I understand is a bit on the low side? What with everything going on, it was more like 4 months by the time we got started. And 3 months by the time we settled on a plan?? We took a little mini-vacation to Ojo Caliente where I had had a thought all those months ago, to scope it out for a possible wedding and also do some soaking and relaxing. It was nice, and the round barn was awesome but I got sticker shock and had family that thought it might not be convenient. At that point we scaled back our thinking to doing something casual in the woods and having a reception locally in a small lodge and self-catering but then I started feeling a deep paranoia that that wouldn’t be awesome enough to justify family and friends flying across the country. Expectations! Weddings! In the end, after a LOT of agonizing and making spreadsheets and budgets we decided on a place in Albuquerque.
In June the peeps were finally big enough to get kicked outside, so that meant a massive amount of work on Coop V3. With 20-odd birds, an expansion was in order, so I took the V2 coop and essentially tripled it. So that involved building out another 2/3 of framing onto the original 1/3, all of which is elevated 3′ off the ground. Added a second window, and a whole new array of nest boxes. Around the time that the framing was underway, Geoff departed back to FL land, so I was left to finish my grandiose plans on my own. To bring together the two sections of coop, at the frame level I used some massive carriage bolts to bring joists together below the deck, but the real masterpiece was the unified roof. I eventually settled on a single-slope type roof, with a large amount of overhang front and back for shade and weather protection over the doorway and the roof eaves which are open for ventilation. I agonized over roofing material for days before settling on some pretty basic metal corrugated sheets. Bringing those home along with some 10′ lumber all strapped to the roof of my car under some extreme wind conditions by myself was not an experience I would like to repeat.

So I spent a lot of time crawling around the roof framing, wrestling with flashing, nails, screws, joist hanging hardware, roofing screws and cross bars, generally just winging things! It was instructive and while things aren’t perfect for a coop it’s pretty awesome I think! One the ladies were kicked out of the house into their new home they underwent a lockdown period, to try and brainwash them of all previous memories of where home is, and get them in the habit of returning there to roost. Most take to it, but sometimes a few get adventurous and make us find them.
June also saw my introduction to the Los Alamos Derby Dames, a local start-up derby league. I skated with santa fe some 2 years ago, but then that team dissolved and I segued into only derby photography and no skating. Santa fe came back, but my dedication to driving an hour one-way multiple times a week for practice, and 200 miles roundtrip for a scrimmage did not. So this had me very enthused to be able to skate locally, make new friends, and be able to get involved in a new league building and doing things on our own terms! In June I also ripped up the entire living room carpet and also in a frenzy took down the shitty old vertical blinds, because it seemed much easier than cleaning everything. The underflying floor is maybe ok to refinish and I put that on my list. In June we also kill and process a rooster (to the left in the photo above) who was one of two that came in our box. The other one, a handsome guy we gave away but the little gray bird didn’t find a home in time before he started make a huge ruckus. The kill was messy and a bit traumatizing but I find the processing very enjoyable. Aspen enjoyed the organ meat, the feathers got composted and the rest of the bird was plucked, cleaned and frozen.
At the end of June, Geoff flew out of town, I went home to a derby practice… and billowing black clouds of destruction loomed over the town. Yep, day one of the Las Conchas fire. The long and short of THAT tale is, I built a 5-gallon waterer for the birds, packed up the car with camping stuff, valuable electronics and … waited. Eventually the evacuation call came so Aspen and I left town and drove north. I was going to just camp it out, so I went to Carson Nat’l Forest, but I did not anticipate just how hard it would be to be alone and isolated, but still relatively close to the action. And yet cut off from information feeds. Also they closed the forest. The morning of that second day a ranger came by to collect camping fee/ check in and I just started crying I was so overwhelmed. After that, I drove east into Taos and stayed one night at a dog-friendly hotel. It was ok, except I felt like I was spending too much money and still feeling miserable. Also it was raining ash in Taos. After that, I took up some lovely friends on their offer to stay at their place which was south of Santa Fe. On the way I tried to talk my way back into the town, but was stopped by guards and turned back. I was feeling very depressed and helpless even as well meaning family and friends wondered what I was doing, during this big moment of fire – after all, that’s my job? It was disheartening to say that I was useless and got kicked out of town even while some of my coworkers remained there, doing useful tasks. If I could have done things differently I would have never left, and I’m still pretty sad about everything I missed. Which I realize that may sound strange to some people, it’s like, wildfire and emergency management is what I am more interested in studying than anything else and I completely blew this chance. Sigh. Anyway I moved into this newly purchased home, in a rural area. There was no furniture and no potable water, but it was still a huge improvement, I could go into santa fe and get some internet on, and had company occasionally as ang and ro came by to do things. Eventually the hellish week ended and I was able to return home but man, if I could change one thing of this past year, it would be that. Not that it happened, just what I did. Probably the best thing to come out of this week was a nice boost to a friendship that was based on derby and had lapsed over the year, and my discovery of Joe’s Cafe in santa fe, which is an awesome proponent of local foods and healthy living.
July was actually a comparatively low-key month! I think we all needed that. Geoff was in town to talk with T division about a post doc position! And then in August I flew out to FL to pack him up and drive him across the country for good
Let me just repeat that for good measure: August. In Florida. Packing up a cramped second-floor apartment. Loading a moving truck. Oh god it was so terrible ;;
We met Geoff’s mom (first time for me) and Dad who had going-away gifts and family furniture that we also loaded up, managed to get the saturn onto the car carrier, and the carrier attached to the truck, we hooked up PARTY CUBE for iphone mp3 action in the truck and started driving. 2 days later we were home! unpacking was a breeze compared to loading, especially with a well-timed arrival (for us) of our neighbor’s daughter/fellow skater and her husband. The next day we returned the moving truck and went on to ABQ for a wedding tasting at Los Poblanos! August also saw the first-ever los alamos derby skate clinic which was awesome and fun.
September was intense. We sourced a local winery at a wine festival (Anasazi Fields) for the wedding, adopted a pot-belly pig, I visited with alpacas and got a new haircut, followed by a new driver’s license, found local chocolates for the wedding favors and in general engaged in a massive frenzy of wedding stuff. The pig only lasted a week, as it turns out she was HELL SWINE.

And then.. October. It started out THE WORST but ended up kinda ok. The WORST part was my sweet dog Aspen was running around the yard and in that very same corner as the picture above, hidden in all that uncharacteristic overgrowth in the wake of monsoon season, was a rusty metal horseshoes pole that I had never been able to get out of the ground. Aspen has run around that metal spike for 5 years now on an almost daily basis, but this one day.. she ran over it instead. And ripped her leg open. The most horrible sounding yelp and whimpers and I see her skin just hanging open while she wailed. it was awful. It was also 6pm. The local on-call vet wasn’t up to it, and neither was the head surgery-capable guy. So we had to load her into the car and drive to santa fe to the emergency animal clinic. The vet said that she would be put under for the surgery to put her leg back together, so we went home. Around 11pm I got a call that said once she was under and they started looking at the leg, it appeared there may be a puncture wound and would I okay a scan? After the scan they called back to verify that she did indeed puncture her abdomen on the metal which meant they would need to do a full abdominal exploratory surgery to make sure no organs or digestive tract was shredded and also do a full cleaning of the abdominal cavity to prevent systemic infection. After the surgery to check things out the good news is that her internals were ok, the bad news was that she ripped the abdominal muscle clear off of her pelvis and they weren’t sure how well it would reattach. All of this a week before the wedding!
She spent a few days in the ER under constant monitoring of BP, heart rate, temperature etc, while receiving a constant IV of antibiotics. We went to see her and she was so full of tubes and wires and probes and drains, all of her legs terribly swollen. On thursday I bought her home but she still had drains in her, constantly leaking blood, unable to go up or down stairs. We had to restrain her for her own safety but she would freak out and go into maximum psychotic mode if we tried to crate her. I ended up picking up some prescriptions for sedatives but I’m not sure who needed them more. On Friday I took her to the local vet who would board her on their hospital level while we were busy getting married and honeymoon’d. That was probably the best possible decision, I was agonized at the time, but she made it through the weekend, and never did show any signs of infection, and we were able to focus on the whole wedding thing.
The wedding! It was awesome. I’ll probably make that a post unto itself as well! Also Honeymoon! And right after that, I officially graduated with a MS in FPE, some 9 years after I started. The rest of the month was a frenzy of preparation and crafting for the derby dames halloween party that we put on downtown (great fun!). November followed up a momentous month with the successful defense of Geoff’s dissertation, and final release from the protracted, drawnout, unceasing, neverending, unfunded work he was doing long after he was supposed to be done >.< Glory be, all done! November also took us on a roadtrip up to Denver for the Derby national championships. So much good derby! wow! Thanksgiving this year we celebrated at home with friends, and a Tofurkey. It was delicious and fun! I would like to make the house cleaner and nicer overall, things like refinishing the floor are still on my list, which is now make exponentially more challenging by the addition of a lot of furniture when Geoff moved in. There isn’t really any “extra” space to temporarily relocate anything so I don’t know how to proceed with that.
December was full of snow days (AWESOME), regular life and then christmas at home, followed by travel to FL. We flew into JAX and visited with Geoff’s dad, mom, and step-dad (all at once!) and watched Girl with a Dragon Tattoo with his dad. They we drove on down a ways to Vero Beach to visit my grandparents. Sadly my grandma was having a rough few days and wasn’t able to spend much time with us. We hoped to go out to dinner but grandpa showed up and gave us some money and said to enjoy but he had to go back home
So it was really nice seeing them and I’m glad I got out there, just too bad we didn’t have more time! After that we drove south to Miami and struck west to visit the everglades. It was cool and all, but … well, it was really crowded for one. We’re talking crowds of people and cars parked up and down the highway roadside. I did see a lot of alligators! But we missed / it was sold out the tram ride with a ranger so all we could do really (at this particular entrance) was wander around on our own for a bit. Oh well. I’m not sure it was worth the hellish drive down the FL expressway but I can say i’ve been there now. Then we visited with some friends in Miami and probably kept them up far too late, and met a cool cat, a Bengal. Flew out of Miami the next day! With a lot of delta skylounge food along the way, which is probably still the coolest thing of flying. We got back and proceeded to play SWTOR nonstop for a long weekend until sadly, blearily, it was time to go back to work
And here we are. I didn’t set out to write a recap post, but it just seemed weird jumping into my actual topic with this year and a half long gap just sitting there.